Mental Health: Dealing With Depression

 

mental health 1On November 26, 2018, I read about the suicide news of Rushaan Farrukh. It’s disheartening to know that a young girl, who was studying visual arts at BNU in Lahore, took away her life. Her last Instagram posts proved that she was suffering from depression.

I wonder what might be going through Rushaan’s mind when she was standing on the building’s roof. Giving up your life is not an easy decision rather it takes guts and a lot of negativities for Rushaan to jump off from that roof.

These days, youngsters and children are suffering from depression and the reasons are heartbreaks, failure at studies and bullying.

Depression is not a fluff; it’s real and valid issue. I do know what it’s like to be in this state because I had also gone through this phase. A couple of years ago, I had zero motivation for life and I totally gave up. It’s not because of bullying but yes I was heartbroken and this affected my studies. Despite being an A-Grade student I failed miserably at my fifth semester. And on top of that, my mother started looking for my rishtas because I turned 21, luckily I faced rejections many times (pun intended). Consequently, I felt bad and all of this just broke my spirit and I fell into depression.

At that time, I don’t know how and what happened but I only remembered that my parents, sister and most importantly my connection to Almighty Allah restored my strength.

Mental health is a big predicament and it should not be taken lightly. There are several mental health problems a person faces which include anxiety, insomnia and depression. Unfortunately, people suffering from these mental problems are mocked and derided by their surroundings and society.

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Feeling anxious or low is normal but if this persists for longer period of time, then this is alarming. Depression is chronic, it can kill people. Depressed people tend to let their lives slide away from their hands. They feel safe in their own cocoon and don’t want to come out. Usually we think that people who are unsuccessful are depressed which is wrong. Several successful celebrities have also been reported to be in severe depression. Hollywood bigwigs such as Robin Williams and Chester Bennington (Linkin Park) took away their lives. In Bollywood, Deepika Padukone was the first female protagonist who came forward and acknowledged that she is suffering from high functioning depression. Now, Padukone helps create countrywide awareness about mental health.

So the question arises how to deal people with clinical depression? As society, it’s important to show concern and listen to the people who are depressed. Don’t shut them up by saying that you should be thankful for your life. The person is in pain and only he/she wants you to listen and not to be judgmental.

As parents, it’s important to build a relation with their children. During Zara Hat Kay Show, one of the psychologists, Aniqa, suggests to parents that they should teach gratitude and patience to the youngsters. These two traits are lacking in today’s generation and they want immediate results and if any mishap happens which is against their plan, they become impatient.

As far as my viewpoint is concerned, I don’t want to say anything to society because it won’t make much of a difference. I will directly say to the person, who is going through depression, try to revive your connection with your Creator. As Muslims, we believe that Allah calls you five times a day. The call to prayer is a reminder that the Creator is there for you. HE won’t abandon you in your misery. Talk to Allah because HE will listen to you. Pray to Allah because HE is the one who can boost your inner strength. Try to create a strong bond with Allah, who never judge you by your physical appearance and do not see your status; instead your Creator only sees your beautiful heart. Seek help from your Creator.

Remember you are above all these materialistic objects and do not let anyone belittle you because no matter how much we talk about humanity, or showing concern to people, nothing will change. There will be people who will demean you, who will say rubbish about you so DO NOT LET ANYONE COME IN YOUR WAY.

Nobody is perfect in this world, not me, you or not even your bully. This time will pass. And you just need to stay firm. And keep moving, you will eventually find a far better place.

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‘Unknown’ Quest

'Search of Life'

We ask this question once in a lifetime that why we are here in this world?  We are living in this world but we do not know the real reason of our subsistence. We all are running behind something but that ‘something’ is always out of our reach because we have never-ending desires which never quench our thirst.

Every so often, life seems to be meaningless; you are confused in between wrong and right but what is wrong for you; it maybe right for someone else. You try to justify with all the reasons even after that you are discontented with the answer. It is like a game of puzzle where you have to find your way through confounding mazes.  We pass different stages of life and every stage teaches us something but only those people learn who have an urge to gain wisdom.

The quest of finding oneself takes one’s whole life; many people travel the path of self-realization but only rare reach their destination. As a Muslim, we believe that our main goal is to live in this world according to the directives of Almighty but then everyone does according to their comfort zone. It is confusing because I am also in a perplexed state and the road to discover about my existence in this world makes me clueless…I know it makes no sense but then life also makes no sense…

Unconditional Love

What happens when everything seems to fall apart in your life? You are confused and the first thing comes to your mind Why me? At first you feel sad then the anger takes charge over you and in that whirl of resentment, you begin to lose temper and unintentionally hurt your loved ones. Those loved ones who are part of you, your endeared parents! But you take them for granted because you know they won’t ever leave you.

The needs of fulfilling our wishes make us self-centered. We start to overlook our beloved ones.

True Relation

Sad but true! We do not give time to our family because we are ‘busy’ in our stuffs. I remember when my mother was injured in a road accident and the day before this particular incident I had a huge argument with her. Only because she needed my company and I had no time to listen her for even few minutes. She was upset and even I apologized for which she forgave me. Next on the day of accident, forgetting all what happened last night she accompanied me for my assignment. While finishing my work, we headed towards home and while crossing the road she was hit by the bike in front of my eyes. I saw her thrown away on the road from where she was. It was like a bad dream that came true. The entire world around me seemed to collapse, I was aghast with terror. She was lying on the road and me and my sister picked her up and took to the nearby hospital. She was unconscious but there were no tears in my eyes because I was in the state of shock. It was like life was slipping away from my hand. Whole one week I was in the status of uncertainty, but once she regained full conscious, she said,” I am sorry beta, I could not go with you  for your assignment but do not worry I will get fined soon and then I will take you.” I was out of words and tears started running from my eyes. If anything goes wrong in our life we hurt them either voluntarily or involuntarily but here she is, trying to console me.

Together, we find happiness

We all are in a rat race for something and we think that if we achieve that ‘amazing thing’, happiness will knock our door. We are never satisfied with whatever we get because we want more. We just crib about what we do not have rather being thankful to Almighty of what we have. Our family is the one that supports us in our trial times no matter what happens they are always with you. When you do not acquire what you want, they are there to encourage you. However we forget all this because we are so busy in trying to win the contest that we fail to see these loving gestures.

Marriage of Convenience

In the month of October (2010), a strange event took place which attracted the media. It became the topic of discussion for different talk shows and many were either in favor of this or showed their disagreement.

It was really a ‘marriage of convenience’ and this phrase really set well when in the mid of October a rare wedding was held.

A father in Multan sought a relative reconciliation with a unique union of three people: one young man and his two wives. The father of the groom persuaded with pride as his son went on to marry two of his cousins in the space of couple of days. The first wedding took place in full media glare and the scene was again re-shot with a minor change in detail, that being the addition of a fresh bride to replace the other bride. The father of the groom has a widowed sister and widowed sister-in-law and they both had daughters. They both were according to the Pakistani parlance ‘marriageable’ age. The boy’s father didn’t want to hurt his sister as well as his sister-in-law and therefore he came up with the idea of obliging both. After wedding the groom asked for the sponsored honeymoon from the government.

I do not understand what in the world, we live in. I mean marriage is not just to oblige anyone it is a way of connecting two individuals with the consent of Almighty Allah but we have taken this in lighter mode. It is considered to be a blissful moment in one’s life but double marriage and that also to favor someone turns a cheerful mode into a compromising mode. It is all because of less understanding of religion and trying to mould the religion according to our own convenience.