“Care about people’s approval, and you will always be their prisoner.”– Lao Tzu
Are you kind of person who always cares of what people think? Are you always seeking approval from the people around you?
If that’s the case, then you deal with the fear of judgment. It’s irrelevant to let others overpower you with their opinions. Don’t want to complain but people will do talk about you. They always have. And they always will. No matter what you do or say, how you behave, the way you walk or dress, how you act, or the decisions you make, will always be scrutinised by others. It’s the social nature of people.
Similarly you are no less than them. You also say things to people (even though unintentionally) which they don’t like. I and you are not perfect individuals who cannot make mistakes. We are humans and so it’s normal.
The problem arises when we allow other people’s opinions to not only hurt us, but often times, to define us. We develop rage and resentment against people. Little did we know that all this will only weaken us from inside and nobody else…
In the past few days, I have realised that it’s difficult to let go of anger and stay calm in frustrating situation. But when we do suppress our anger and don’t let other’s opinion affect us, we feel invincible.
There are small changes you can implement into your life. One of the best things is not to worry what others think of you.
Don’t waste your time trying to get everyone to like you, because it’s impossible.
Focus on becoming a better person.
Spend time with people who can boost your morale (in a positive way).
Keep an optimistic outlook on life
Be there for people who need your support. And lastly, be grateful of what you have now.
Remember, some people will disapprove you no matter whatever you try to do. It’s important that you should not measure yourself by the standards of other people.
You should not depend on the approval from outside; rather you should embark on a journey of knowing your inner self. Question your thinking and identity and define your self-worth.